International Men's Day: Why Supporting Men's Wellbeing Matters
| “International Men’s Day is an opportunity for people everywhere…to appreciate and celebrate the men in their lives and the contribution they make to society for the greater good of all.”
International Men's Day
Since 1999, International Men’s Day (IMD) has been celebrated on the 19th of November. It is a celebration of the boys and men in our lives, and a recognition of how important it is to care for their mental and emotional health throughout their entire lives.
This year’s theme was suggested by author Lisa Britton, who specialises in true gender equality and the importance of supporting boys and men in striving towards this goal.
The theme is an extension of the ideology developed by leading political scientist and activist Dr. Warren Farrell. He claims that:
He suggests that when the boys in our society aren’t properly cared for, this has a knock-on effect for the women and girls they go on to interact and have families with.
But if we teach our boys and men how to look after their mental health, they will be able to interact in a healthier way, ultimately benefitting not only themselves but also women and girls.
IMD at Hospital Chaplaincy Aotearoa
At Hospital Chaplaincy Aotearoa, International Men’s Day reminds us that caring for men is an important part of caring for our communities. While men make invaluable contributions to society as fathers, partners, caregivers, colleagues, and leaders, many also face significant challenges. This could be their mental ill-health, feelings of loneliness, grief, questions of purpose and identity, and more.
We need to look after the men in our society, to help them to find the tools required to talk about their problems with people that can help them.
One of our chaplains journeyed with a patient towards the end of his life, offering him an avenue through which to open up about his feelings for what was to come:
“My hubby Dennis was diagnosed with terminal cancer in January and admitted to Tauranga hospital. We were distraught, despairing and heartbroken. Being new to Tauranga, we had no close friends or family.
I went to the chapel to weep and pray. I was joined by one of the chaplains, Andrew. He was gentle and unobtrusive but assured me that they were there when needed. He visited my hubby a number of times, talking "guy" things with him, as well as about death and God. He was very calm and compassionate. He prayed with us and anointed Dennis with oil. This brought Dennis so much inner peace and when he passed, he was not afraid.
In the midst of grieving, I am so grateful for what Andrew did for Dennis.”
| Hospital chaplains are there for everyone.
They provide emotional and spiritual support to people at their most vulnerable, facing some of the most difficult moments of their lives. Through their presence and support, they are in an excellent position to help start these vulnerable conversations with the men and boys with whom they interact.
International Men’s Day is not about choosing one sex over another. It’s about recognising that healthy families, healthy relationships, and healthy communities depend on everyone being supported.
| When men are cared for, everyone benefits.
